Got Consent?
You may have noticed the posters around campus, or the hand stamps on nights out? This is because this valentine’s week it is all about being sexy and when you find that lucky someone, making sure you respect each other and ask for consent.
So, have YOU got consent?
Before you stop reading, thinking oh god, this is going to be preachy and boring, why don’t I make a deal with you? If you score top points on this quiz you can stop reading if you want; if not, you have to promise to read the rest?!
Ok, GO!
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So if you get over 6 questions you are clued up!
1. What is the age of consent in Italy?
16
13
14
2. Is consent always spoken?
Yes
No
Depends
3. In a hetrosexual relationship do women have to ask men if they are consenting as well?
Never
Yes
Depends on the guy
4. The age of consent for men and women is..?
Men: 16 Women: 16
Men: 16 Women: 18
Men: 14 Women: 16
5. Can asking for consent be sexy?
Of course not!!
Sometimes
Yes, it can be
6. You have to say yes to get them to like or respect you?
Yes, no one will like you otherwise
No
Sometimes
7. If you are in a relationship, is it possible to not give consent?
We are dating, of course consent is always a given
No, you still can always say no
If I loved them I would have sex with them
8. If you give consent once, does that mean you are giving consent for the rest of the night/morning
No
Yes
For the rest of the night at least, maybe not the morning
Answers at the bottom!
Consent is about checking that both partners want the same thing from their sexual experience and are agreeing and respecting each other whilst doing so. It is a clear understanding of what has been mutually agreed upon and what has been consented to. It should be freely given, and enjoyed! If it isn't then it can be sexual assault.
Consent is sexy!! Here are some examples of how you can still maintain the mood, but be sure your partner is still feeling hot under the collar:
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It makes me hot when you touch me here, can you do that?
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Is it okay if I take my pants off?
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What do you want me to do to you?
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Is this okay with you?
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I really like you and want this to last, so let's take it slow.
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Can you touch me over here?
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Can I take your shirt off?
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You're kinda cute, can I kiss you?
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Can I kiss you here? What about here?
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Have you ever....? Would you like to try it with me?
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I really like having sex/making love to you. Do you like it to?
Asking questions, and talking about sex and exploring what both of you want from the experience can be fun, exciting and sexy. It may also even improve your sex life! So why not give it a go and explore what you think is sexy and what isn't, just remember make sure all parties involved are consenting and having fun!
Sometimes however, consent isn't spoken when you have been together for a while. You will have started to build trust and an understanding of each others bodies and can recognise each other's body language. However, you should still make sure that you take it slow, check for any signs that mean they may not want to such as tensing, pushing or looking away, then you know to stop!
Always check, be alert and make sure that everyone is having a good time.
Question 1, 14. Question 2, Depends (It should always be spoken, but if you are in a long term relationship, you will be able to read the persons body language, but you should still always check!) Question 3,Yes . Question 4, Men: 16 Women: 16. Question 5, Yes, it can be. Question 6, No. Question 7, No, you still can always say no. Question 8, No.
How did you do?